Well, it is hump day, Wednesday, middle of the week, why the hell is this week taking so long to finish day.....
Since I last reported to you, things have gotten tense, and then calmed measurably. Which is a good thing for now. The only question is: "Are we currently sitting in the eye of the hurricane and the storm is about to hit us again?"
It occurred to me since i last wrote in this medium, that I probably need to do some introductions so that the readers are up to date on who the players are and how they fit into my frustrations and ramblings.
Let start with L. L is my fiancee, the love of my life, and my bestest friend. We have been together since March/April 2007 and got engaged this past Feb. The wedding is in December. L is 45, has three children M, R, and T, all of whom are over the age of 21. M and T each have a son that are turning 3 in the next two months. Needless to say, these two are the source of the majority of my frustrations.
T and her son live with us now, much to my displeasure. T was involved with shithead#1 (SH1), who is the baby's daddy. SH1 is currently a guest of the Department of Corrections for possession with intent to distribute, domestic abuse, and being a general lazy ass and all around dumbfuck. T has a princess complex, whereby she feels the need to have someone take care of her, wine her and dine her, take her shopping, and she does not have to do anything for these services other than the obvious.
M and his baby's momma lived with us for awhile earlier this year, and while it was a challenge and a source of my stress; their occupancy of my home was more hospitable than current circumstances.
Today's topic of frustration centers around T and her myriad of BF's and suitors who she is currently seeing while SH1 is incarcerated. One of them, B (shithead 2/SH2) sees fit to get drunk on a regular basis most every weekend, and either pick a fight with someone, who usually kicks SH2's ass, or he see fit to get psycho and maudlin about his relationship with T and decides to call at all hours of the day and night, without regard to who is living, sleeping, and paying the bills in the house.
Last night, the fucker called on the landline at 145AM, hung up, called again every 3to 4 minutes. Now, he has T's cell phone number, but SH2 is so fucking stupid/drunk that he decides that since T isn't answering the cell phone (she turned it off you buger eating moron) he will call the landline, and then when L or I answered the phone, there is silence and then a hang up. Guess what genius, we have caller ID and I am currently debating whether to totally block your number from existence or use the call trace feature which automatically routes your phone number and address to the local constabulary so that you will get a drive by from the POPO and maybe a wake up call on social etiquette and phone skills.
L and I will discuss this tonight, so watch for more details upcoming.
Comments.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Thursday, August 7, 2008
SSDD
SSDD
The issues on the home front continue and while there seems to be some light at the end of the tunnel (L. gave the child a talking to last night), i wasnt there so I cant vouch for what was said or discussed. I know there was some embarassment on the childs part for getting into the situation, some general remorse (although probably momentary and theatrical in nature), and yet again, another promise to do the right thing and not stir the shitpot anymore.
I am keeping my mouth shut for the duration and will only open it up again if the police are involved.
As always, comments are welcome.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Good Morning Campers......
Well the medical crisis from yesterday was went from bad, to potentially worse, back to just bad. Suffice it to say a pregnancy test was involved and even though it came back negative and we all breathed a collective sigh of relief, the fact remains that a pregnancy test had to be administered at all was enough to reinforce my thoughts from yesterday.
THe verdict is still out on the kidney issue though and while there needs to be some serious investigatoin of the issue by trained professionals, the chances of that happening in the forseeable future are pretty slim.
On another note.....
I have this uneasy feeling about things with L. She is naturally private and doesn't open up very easily. My natural curiousity and inate ability to read people is usually right on, but she continually assures me that nothing is wrong and that i need to relax and not worry. Well, I do worry. I worry that she is holding back or weighing her options to move on, based on my disdain for her children's lifestyle choices and lack of personal responsibility. We had a long talk last night and both admited to each other that, despite being only 4 months from getting married, we have both had second thoughts about it, due to her kids.
Now I may bitch and moan alot about things, but generally, I am a fairly giving person and will help a brother out if they need it. And even though I complain and bitch about the kids, mine and hers, I usually come through with money, or support when they need it. But it wears thin when I feel like I am being taken advantage of and that they look upon her and I as an easy mark and a free ride. I keep telling myself and her too that when they finally take care of their own shit and quit relying on us to bail them out, then things will get better for all involved. But being Mom, she cant let go and give them the tough love that they need. She readily admits that she is an enabler and while she bitches just as much as i do about things and typically agrees with my assessment and opinon of what could or should be done; she for the most part, gives into to them. She has gotten better about it and I keep hoping that one of these days, the light bulb will go on and she will have her fill of things and tell them to sink or swim.
Well the medical crisis from yesterday was went from bad, to potentially worse, back to just bad. Suffice it to say a pregnancy test was involved and even though it came back negative and we all breathed a collective sigh of relief, the fact remains that a pregnancy test had to be administered at all was enough to reinforce my thoughts from yesterday.
THe verdict is still out on the kidney issue though and while there needs to be some serious investigatoin of the issue by trained professionals, the chances of that happening in the forseeable future are pretty slim.
On another note.....
I have this uneasy feeling about things with L. She is naturally private and doesn't open up very easily. My natural curiousity and inate ability to read people is usually right on, but she continually assures me that nothing is wrong and that i need to relax and not worry. Well, I do worry. I worry that she is holding back or weighing her options to move on, based on my disdain for her children's lifestyle choices and lack of personal responsibility. We had a long talk last night and both admited to each other that, despite being only 4 months from getting married, we have both had second thoughts about it, due to her kids.
Now I may bitch and moan alot about things, but generally, I am a fairly giving person and will help a brother out if they need it. And even though I complain and bitch about the kids, mine and hers, I usually come through with money, or support when they need it. But it wears thin when I feel like I am being taken advantage of and that they look upon her and I as an easy mark and a free ride. I keep telling myself and her too that when they finally take care of their own shit and quit relying on us to bail them out, then things will get better for all involved. But being Mom, she cant let go and give them the tough love that they need. She readily admits that she is an enabler and while she bitches just as much as i do about things and typically agrees with my assessment and opinon of what could or should be done; she for the most part, gives into to them. She has gotten better about it and I keep hoping that one of these days, the light bulb will go on and she will have her fill of things and tell them to sink or swim.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Too Smart for my own good.
OK....
I am not a rocket scientist. Never wanted to be one and never could be one since i could barely pass algebra and did not even attempt to take Calculus. But some things are intuitive. It does not take a rocket scienist to detect patterns in behavior, observe changes and events and their resulting consequences and actions.
We all know that when it is hot outside, we should drink lots of fluids, preferably water, and try to avoid overexcertion. But some people are just not up to the challenge of listening to their bodies, or seeing the pattern that every summer, at about this same time of year, they get dehydrated and have trouble with their kidneys.
I have known this person for less than 18 months. I am now living through the second episode and trip the hospital for treatment of this condition. When I asked about if this is a reoccuring theme with this person, the fucking light bulb finally went on and GUESS WHAT STUDENTS....
SURE ENOUGH, this is at least the 3rd summer in a row that we have endured the medical problem. THATS RIGHT.... 3 summers of excrutiating back pain, throwing up, pissing blood, not to mention the 2 to 4 day stay in the hospital on the taxpayers expense.
So, my question is this. Are kids today just lazy, stupid, or both? Are they so self-absorbed and narcissitic that they are incapable of taking care of themselves and let things go to shit, just to garner the attention and to have someone else bail their asses out of trouble for the umpteenth time? I THINK SO.......
I keep hearing that my mind works on a whole different level than others and that I only see black and white without the benefit of seeing the shades of gray that other see. Well, on this particular day, I would like to know what shade of gray is it that causes someone to be so totally oblivious of their body and health, that they let themselves go through the same issue for the 3rd or 4th year in a row, at nearly the exact same time of the year.
COMMENTS?????????
I am not a rocket scientist. Never wanted to be one and never could be one since i could barely pass algebra and did not even attempt to take Calculus. But some things are intuitive. It does not take a rocket scienist to detect patterns in behavior, observe changes and events and their resulting consequences and actions.
We all know that when it is hot outside, we should drink lots of fluids, preferably water, and try to avoid overexcertion. But some people are just not up to the challenge of listening to their bodies, or seeing the pattern that every summer, at about this same time of year, they get dehydrated and have trouble with their kidneys.
I have known this person for less than 18 months. I am now living through the second episode and trip the hospital for treatment of this condition. When I asked about if this is a reoccuring theme with this person, the fucking light bulb finally went on and GUESS WHAT STUDENTS....
SURE ENOUGH, this is at least the 3rd summer in a row that we have endured the medical problem. THATS RIGHT.... 3 summers of excrutiating back pain, throwing up, pissing blood, not to mention the 2 to 4 day stay in the hospital on the taxpayers expense.
So, my question is this. Are kids today just lazy, stupid, or both? Are they so self-absorbed and narcissitic that they are incapable of taking care of themselves and let things go to shit, just to garner the attention and to have someone else bail their asses out of trouble for the umpteenth time? I THINK SO.......
I keep hearing that my mind works on a whole different level than others and that I only see black and white without the benefit of seeing the shades of gray that other see. Well, on this particular day, I would like to know what shade of gray is it that causes someone to be so totally oblivious of their body and health, that they let themselves go through the same issue for the 3rd or 4th year in a row, at nearly the exact same time of the year.
COMMENTS?????????
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